Sunday, August 31, 2008
3:11 AM
GREAT SONG :)
One Step At A Time
jordin sparks
Hurry up and wait
So close, but so far away
Everything that you've always dreamed of
Close enough for you to taste
But you just can't touch
You wanna show the world, but no one knows your name yet
Wonder when and where and how you're gonna make it
You know you can if you get the chance
In your face as the door keeps slamming
Now you're feeling more and more frustrated
And you're getting all kind of impatient waiting
[Chorus:]
We live and we learn to take
One step at a time
There's no need to rush
It's like learning to fly
Or falling in love
It's gonna happen and it's
Supposed to happen that we
Find the reasons why
One step at a time
You believe and you doubt
You're confused, you got it all figured out
Everything that you always wished for
Could be yours, should be yours, would be yours
If they only knew
You wanna show the world, but no one knows your name yet
Wonder when and where and how you're gonna make it
You know you can if you get the chance
In your face as the door keeps slamming
Now you're feeling more and more frustrated
And you're getting all kind of impatient waiting
[Chorus]
When you can't wait any longer
But there's no end in sight
when you need to find the strength
It's the faith that makes you stronger
The only way you get there
Is one step at a time
[Chorus x2]
2:44 AM
LOVE the way YOU ARE
Everyone in the world, big or small, size 0 or 22, Spanish, black, or white, can feel somewhat inferior to others. These things we tell ourselves, that we aren't good or pretty enough, are in no way based on facts. We are a human being, REMEMBER that. God has created us. I am gifted, You are gifted and we are gifted.
Its important to bear in mind that every human being in this world is different, and no two faces or bodies are the same. Your 'inferiority' as you may refer to it can also be seen as a unique or individual quality. What makes you feel these things are 'inferior' to everyone else? If there is no norm amongst human beings, how can there possibly be any form of inferiority?
Life is too beautiful to live. To be reaally happy all the time is not only impossible but unrealistic,but you can make a conscious effort to be happy all the time. However, to be really happy YOU NEED TO ACCEPT YOUR SELF FOR WHO YOU ARE. Listen, nobody is perfect. Spend enough time thinking about your strengths (everyone has them)and you will find yourself more happy, and also more confident! DON'T CONCENTRATE TOO MUCH ON YOURSELF. GET INTERESTED IN OTHERS AND YOU WILL SEE ALL YOUR FEARS AND WORRIES WHICH MAKE YOU SAD MELT AWAY.
If you are male and feel 'inferior', and cannot seriously enlist the help of a friend for whatever reason, remember all of the above, and perhaps you can talk to a counselor if need be. If you have a girlfriend/wife or close friend who is female, they can also help you. Don't reject their help because they are female, they could be better sources of information than fellow men. REMEMBER, you are NOT alone!
We have one life, rigidly defined.Just one.One life.We have nothing else.
Saturday, August 30, 2008
2:18 PM
how to say I'M SORRY ?
In each of these cases, you know you should apologize but you either don't know how or you can't bring yourself to do it. This happens to all of us. Sometimes you're feeling so hot under the collar or maybe so shameful, it's hard to say the words. What to do?
1. Space.
Give yourself some space and time from the situation. Wait until some of that hot emotion, whether anger or shame, has cooled a bit. When you've cooled a bit, try to think about things from an outsider's perspective. Maybe others share some blame, maybe circumstances made things difficult, but ultimately take a look at your part. What could you have done better?
2. Listen to your own heart.
There's a quiet calm voice in your head that is telling what the right thing to do is. You can even hear it while another voice is raging. You know what I'm talking about.
3. Say It. Here's the simple part.
When you're ready, just humble yourself and say you're sorry. Don't wait until you feel really good about it because that never happens. It's kind of like jumping into a cold pool. You just have to jump in. At first the water is cold, but then you get used to it and you're glad you did it. Why don't we say sorry when we should? Because it smarts. It feels like you're admitting failure. Instead take the "learning experience" approach. You're apologizing and learning.
4. Make It a Habit.
The more you train yourself to swallow your pride, be vulnerable, and give a genuine apology when appropriate, the easier it will get. Just do it!
5. Learn.
While you're at it, try to examine whether you see some patterns in your life that you need to apologize for over and over. See if you can figure out a way to fail-proof that from happening again in the future.
Monday, August 25, 2008
10:04 PM
WHEN A PERSON THINKS a negative thought and tries to get rid of it, that person is thinking positively negatively. Daniel M. Wegner of Trinity University in San Antonio, Texas, has conducted a long string of experiments that show the futility and actual danger of trying to get rid of thoughts.
In some of the experiments, Wegner told his subjects, “Try not to think about a white bear.” The subjects were then asked to say aloud everything that came to mind. Of course, thoughts of white bears showed up quite a bit. Trying not to think of a white bear produced a thought of a white bear between six and fifteen times in a five-minute period.
Trying not to think a negative thought will result in thinking it more.
Thinking is like breathing: It goes on night and day and you can’t stop it. But you can change it. You can breathe slowly and deeply or shallowly and quickly. You can breathe any way you want. But you can’t stop.
The same is true about thinking. You can say something stupid or depressing to yourself; you can say something intelligent or inspiring to yourself; but you can’t stop thinking entirely.
So when you find yourself disliking the content of your thoughts, instead of trying to stop yourself from thinking a thought, try to direct your thoughts.
And the way to direct your thinking is by asking yourself a question. A question gets your mind going in a new direction without suppressing what you’re already thinking. Ask yourself a question.
Of course, the kind of question you ask makes a big difference. If you ask “Why is this happening to poor me?” your answers won’t help you any.
The idea is to direct your mind by asking questions that put your attention on practical things, on accomplishment, on the future. If you find yourself worrying, for example, ask yourself something like this: “How can I make myself stronger and better able to deal with this?” Or “Can I get busy right now working on my goal — so busy I forget all about my worries? And if not, is there some planning I can do now that will save me time later?” Or even simply “What is my goal?”
When you find yourself thinking negatively about something “bad” that happened, ask yourself “What’s good about this?” Or “How can I turn this to my advantage?” Or “What assumption have I made that I can argue with?” Ask a good question.
When you decide on a question to ask yourself, ask the question and keep asking. Ponder it. Wonder about it. Let it run through your mind whenever your mind isn’t otherwise engaged. It will turn the tide of your thoughts and bring you into a new state of mind because you’re thinking positively positively.
think positive make your live out of negative side :)
Saturday, August 23, 2008
10:48 PM
:) laugh your way to stress relief
whether you peal with giggles while re-enacting the most hysterical moments of a Monty Pythonovie or twitter away at the highbrow humor of a New Yorker cartoon, studies have shown that your laugh will do you good. Laughter helps you deal with a variety of maladies, including the stresses of daily life.
how to have — or gain — a sense of humor
Are you afraid you have an underdeveloped — or nonexistent — funny bone? Developing or refining your own particular sense of humor may be easier than you think.
1. put humor on your horizon. Find a few simple items, such as photos or comic strips, that elicit a chuckle from you or others. Then hang them at home, in your office or even on the visor of your car.
2. laugh and the world laughs with you. Develop a sense of humor about your own situation and watch your stress begin to fade away.
3. think positive. Look for the positive or the humorous in every situation and surround yourself with others who do the same.
4. knock-knock. Browse through your local bookstore or library's selection of joke books and get a few rib-ticklers in your repertoire that you can share with friends.
5. know what isn't funny. Don't laugh at the expense of others. Some forms of humor are not appropriate. Use your best judgment to discern a good joke from a bad, or hurtful, one.
Thursday, August 21, 2008
5:28 PM
it's a FRIEND to the ship *FRIENDSHIP :)
"you can't stay in your corner of the forest waiting for others to come to you. You have to go to them sometimes."
Winnie the Pooh
What is friendship?
Friendship is an in-depth relationship. Friendship is comfortable and relaxed. Friendship requires meeting the needs of both friends.
Building a friendship from casual friends.
Building friendships takes time. Friendships require self-disclosure so any friendship has risks, Talking and listening builds friendships. Friendships require equality and loyalty from friends.
Maintenance of friendships is crucial.
Friendships can not be neglected. One-on-one contact is a prerequisite of friendships. Friends must be flexible. Conflict must be resolved for friendships to continue.
Friendships do end. Friendships may not last.
Friendships can lose importance and die gradually. Some friendships end abruptly with unresolved conflict. The worst enemy of friendships is change by one or both friends. There is usually pain with the loss of friendship.
Setting Limits in Friendships
Friendships as well as all other relationships must have limits. You set limits with your friends because you care for them and your relationship with them, not because you don't.
Conversation
Being able to carry on a comfortable conversation with a social acquaintance is a matter of practice and following certain procedures in communicating. It also works for best friends, too.
Wednesday, August 20, 2008
10:32 PM
how to be HAPPY ?
1. smile
You would be suprised how much of an immediate difference physically smiling has on your mood, if you smile and force a little laugh you will feel your mood lighten and you won't have to force it next time, the most instant trick to being happy is to smile, it is a concious decision as long as you know this, just smile and be happy.
2. relax
Lighten up. Don't take yourself too seriously. Try not to over analyze things. Stress can cause many mental, physical, and spiritual problems in your life. One of the major causes of stress is worrying about things that are out of your control. Learn to recognize these things and if you can truly do nothing about them, then just let them go. Take time to laugh at yourself and the situations you find yourself in. Laughter is a powerful, positive medicine and the calmer and more peaceful you can take things, the happier your life will be. It wouldn't be life if some bad things don't happen.
3. take the good with the bad
No one is happy all the time. Everyone has something of sorrow intermingled with the gladness of life. The trick is to make the laughter outweigh the tears. We cannot change the past, but we can enjoy today, and look to the future. If we are prepared to take ownership for the past and accept that everything that's happened in our life, good and bad, has made us the person we are - the battle is half won.
4. be thankful
A key component of happiness is acceptance - learning to be grateful for what you have. A lot of people know it but don't keep it in their minds. Comparing your life with others' is dangerous. Accept the gifts you have and know that no one is better than or less than anyone else's. Keep a "gratitude journal". Every day, write down a few things that you are thankful for and then review what you have written in past entries. It's a great way to remind yourself to be thankful for what you have and to boost your mood.
5. be yourself
Much criticism is caused by people who are discontented with themselves, not with you. One way to get in touch with yourself is through journaling, diaries or (lately) blogs. Your goal may be to open up completely to yourself and learn to be your own best friend by being completely honest with yourself. What do you want out of life? What makes you truly happy? Who do you want to be?
6. make someone else happy
When you're feeling powerless to create happiness in your life, do something to make someone else--anyone--happy, and you'll remember how easy it really can be. Isn't it true the happiest people we know are typically the ones who for some foolish reason are always ready to give you the clothes off their back? And frequently it is true that the most discontented people are the ones who are selfish, demanding, and inconsiderate of others. The happiest days of our lives, when we really dig down deep, is when we see the smile on the face of a person who we care about.
to just be happy....be yourself
Monday, August 18, 2008
1:47 AM
Abraham Maslow:
"A musician must make music, an artist must paint, a poet must write, if he is to be ultimately at peace with himself. What one can be, one must be."
Jean-Luc Godard:
"Art attracts us only by what it reveals of our most secret self."
Lindsay Anderson:
"Art is an experience, not the formulation of a problem."
Aristotle:
"To enjoy the things we ought and to hate the things we ought has the greatest bearing on excellence of character."
Helen Keller:
"When we do the best that we can, we never know what miracle is wrought in our life, or in the life of another."
John W. Gardner:
"Whoever I am, or whatever I am doing, some kind of excellence is within my reach."
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