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Saturday, August 30, 2008
2:18 PM
how to say I'M SORRY ?
In each of these cases, you know you should apologize but you either don't know how or you can't bring yourself to do it. This happens to all of us. Sometimes you're feeling so hot under the collar or maybe so shameful, it's hard to say the words. What to do?
1. Space.
Give yourself some space and time from the situation. Wait until some of that hot emotion, whether anger or shame, has cooled a bit. When you've cooled a bit, try to think about things from an outsider's perspective. Maybe others share some blame, maybe circumstances made things difficult, but ultimately take a look at your part. What could you have done better?
2. Listen to your own heart.
There's a quiet calm voice in your head that is telling what the right thing to do is. You can even hear it while another voice is raging. You know what I'm talking about.
3. Say It. Here's the simple part.
When you're ready, just humble yourself and say you're sorry. Don't wait until you feel really good about it because that never happens. It's kind of like jumping into a cold pool. You just have to jump in. At first the water is cold, but then you get used to it and you're glad you did it. Why don't we say sorry when we should? Because it smarts. It feels like you're admitting failure. Instead take the "learning experience" approach. You're apologizing and learning.
4. Make It a Habit.
The more you train yourself to swallow your pride, be vulnerable, and give a genuine apology when appropriate, the easier it will get. Just do it!
5. Learn.
While you're at it, try to examine whether you see some patterns in your life that you need to apologize for over and over. See if you can figure out a way to fail-proof that from happening again in the future.
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